If Working Women Hate Themselves It’s Only Because They’re TOLD To Hate Themselves
Dr. Kieth Ablow is Fox News’ resident “psychologist” that has the magic ability to fully diagnose a liberal without ever having met them. It’s quite remarkable, really. All he has to do is read a few statements they’ve made or listen to several comments and he can
assassinate the character tell you how deeply disturbed anyone is and why you shouldn’t listen to a word they say.
But really, all Ablow is is a shill for the right, paid to dress up right wing propaganda in psychiatric terms for the benefit of an audience that will swallow any lie that fits their worldview. It’s nice work if you can get it and have absolutely no conscience whatsoever.
This week’s “professional” pronouncement from Ablow is that, in regard to stay-at-home mothers, working women “despise the parts of themselves that may be drawn to such roles, as well.” I know plenty of women who feel guilty about working. My own wife struggled for years, and still does truth be told, with being a working mother particularly because I am a stay-at-home father. But these women do not innately hate themselves or their roles. They doubt themselves because that is what society tells them. Just like with any aspect of culture, a message is repeated over and over and over until it is branded on the subconscious. You’re ugly if your skin has a single blemish. You’re fat if your ribs are not protruding. You’re a whore if you enjoy sex. You’re pathetic is you don’t own 10 inch high heels. You’re a bad mother if you are not in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant.
At the same time, it’s easy to see why a working woman would look at a homemaker with suspicion. Is she really content to stay in the home or is she simply conditioned to think she is? There’s no way to know. Men have it easier in this regard. It’s assumed that if we’re a stay-at-home it’s because we want to because we’re not “manly” or we’re just lazy. In either case, most people are not stupid enough to say that to our faces. Women don’t have that luxury. My own mother-in-law regularly berates my wife for working while I raise the kids. Of course, she has a failure rate of 50% when it comes to raising children and maintaining a marriage so her opinion is pretty far down on my list of things I care about. Somewhere between belly button lint and toe jam.
Take heart women, both working and not! This, too, shall pass. Your daughters and granddaughters will grow up in a world where women are free (economics permitting) to stay at home, work or have a hubby-at-home without all of the psychological baggage frauds and hacks like Ablow want to weight them down with.
You’ve come a long way, baby, from when the phrase “You’ve come a long way, baby!” was considered empowering instead of trite and condescending. 😉